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are you questioning your sexuality?

While some of us know about our same-sex attraction from our earliest childhood sexual stirrings, many women do not find they are open to these feelings until they enter their mid-twenties or early thirties, and some even later than that. This can leave women in an awkward position, feeling like a “late-bloomer” in their sexuality…

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female identity and sexuality

How has our society, by asking women to be quiet and good, shaped our identity and sexuality? How do you define your female identity? How does your sexuality connect to your identity?  Are you concerned about how others see you? What parts of yourself are you losing by being who others want you to be?…

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what do they say about your same-sex desire?

Family Therapy Magazine’s featured article in the January/February 2013 issue, “Coming Out, Then Coming Together” by Dr. Eliana Gil, PhD., ( highlights Gil’s work with two lesbian women in their early 40’s who were struggling with a life transition as a couple. Through Gil’s use of expressive therapies, the women uncover some of their deeper…

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are you married to a man but in love with a woman?

Waking up to your sexuality and attraction to women while in a heterosexual marriage, possibly with children, can be one of the most confusing and conflict filled times in one’s life.  As women, we are socialized from our earliest developmental stages to follow our cultural norms. We absorb what is expected of us, or what…

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coming out mid-life, questioning sexuality, lesbain counseling, couples counseling, sexuality counseling, nyc

are you coming out in mid-life?

Exploring your sexuality in mid-life takes resolution and fortitude. It may seem as if the “normal” time for you to develop your sexual identity has long passed. As adults, we don’t give ourselves much space for experimentation and questioning around our sexual identity. While our culture is ever-evolving, it remains one that has been burdened with…

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