Are you married to a man but in love with a woman?
Waking up to your sexuality and attraction to women while in a heterosexual marriage, possibly with children, can be one of the most confusing and conflict filled times in one’s life.
What do they say about your same-sex desire?
For those of you that find your source of grounding and strength in your families-of-origin, ‘coming-out’ with your same-sex desire may be one of the first times you face the prospect of being truly stigmatized or disappointing to your loved ones. The fear of a negative, unsupportive reaction from the place in your world where you have felt your safest may have kept your same-sex desires from surfacing. When homophobia carries into your family, peer groups, community, and the greater world around you, its no surprise that many do not come out until later in life, if at all.
Are you coming out in mid-life?
Exploring your sexuality in mid-life takes resolution and fortitude. It may seem as if the “normal” time for you to develop your sexual identity has long passed. As adults, we don’t give ourselves much space for experimentation and questioning around our sexual identity.