Befriend your discomfort…
Allowing ourselves to feel all of our feelings, not just the pleasant ones, can be a real challenge for many of us. When presented with the notion that allowing oneself to sit in uncomfortable feelings like regret, disappointment, sadness, fear, or grief and loss could help us move to a new place, you may feel some skepticism and also resistance.
Transitions
The word transition is defined on dictionary.com as “movement, passage, or change from one position, state, stage, subject, concept, etc., to another; change.”
What is it about “change” that makes us all so uncomfortable? How is it that we can deny that the one constant in our existence here on earth is change? Why do we hold on to things for dear life, or fear that we will suffer so much when they change?
Communicate “all the way”…
As a couples therapist, I am privy to inside information about couples lives that most others are not. With this inside information, I can see the places couples get stuck and the how and the why in ways that they are unable to see from their subjective respective stances.
Your partner isn’t a mind reader.
Do you feel frustrated when you share things about your day with your partner? Do you wish they would stop trying to fix or problem solve, and instead listen and show support? Have you stopped sharing because you know you won’t get what you need?